Once you’ve reached the point where you’ve decided to get divorced, it’s critical that you recognize the importance of staying the course. Focus on the goal, and on the better days ahead. Resist the temptation to slip into denial. And above all – adopt a tenacious mindset. You’re about to embark on a difficult journey where you’ll be tested, stressed, and challenged in big ways and small. You may reach points where you think about giving up, or slowing down. No. Onward and upward.
You knew when you started that this wasn’t going to be easy, but perhaps you underestimated the difficulty levels. Wouldn’t it be easier to just give up?
Maybe you’re the one who started the divorce, are you reconsidering? No. Stop that. Eyes forward.
Maybe you’re the one who got surprised by your spouse who filed for divorce, and you’re dragging your heels because you think the other side will come around? No. Stand up. Recognize what’s happening. And move through it.
Divorce is hard work for both parties – but it’s only going to get harder the longer you drag it out. Remain focused on the end goal – getting on with your lives and finding new paths forward as individuals. Don’t see your divorce as just a time of suffering – see it as the hard work you need to put in now, in order to have a better life later. And don’t forget – staying tenacious can make up for a lot of other shortcomings:
Your divorce is a challenge. But at the end is your reward – a better life. Tenacity will get you through this.