Divorce is terrible! Divorce is the worst thing ever! Divorce is wonderful! Wait, what?
The idea that divorce is actually a GOOD thing is a bit of an outlier. Most people cling to the belief that their divorce is the worst thing that has ever happened to them. But what if it’s one of the best things?
“Divorce is always good news. I know that sounds weird, but it’s true because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce. That would be sad. If two people were married and … they just had a great thing and then they got divorced, that would be really sad. But that has happened zero times.” -Louis CK
Wise words from someone who has been there and done that. And a healthy reminder that you are almost certainly BETTER OFF in the wake of your divorce – even if you don’t realize it yet. And a reminder that you should be careful not to hold onto some unrealistic perception that your marriage was perfect and wonderful. That’s simply not true and you know it! There were (presumably) plenty of good things about it – and you were once very much in love. But things changed. It happens. Better to accept that you were both unhappy at various times, and to varying degrees. Don’t get stuck in a state of denial. Recognize things for what they are. And recognize that you both had something to do with your marriage going bad to the point where a divorce became the path forward.