Divorce is always good news

Good News!

Divorce is terrible! Divorce is the worst thing ever! Divorce is wonderful! Wait, what?

The idea that divorce is actually a GOOD thing is a bit of an outlier. Most people cling to the belief that their divorce is the worst thing that has ever happened to them. But what if it’s one of the best things?

Divorce is always good news. I know that sounds weird, but it’s true because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce. That would be sad. If two people were married and … they just had a great thing and then they got divorced, that would be really sad. But that has happened zero times.” -Louis CK

 

Wise words from someone who has been there and done that. And a healthy reminder that you are almost certainly BETTER OFF in the wake of your divorce – even if you don’t realize it yet. And a reminder that you should be careful not to hold onto some unrealistic perception that your marriage was perfect and wonderful. That’s simply not true and you know it! There were (presumably) plenty of good things about it – and you were once very much in love. But things changed. It happens. Better to accept that you were both unhappy at various times, and to varying degrees. Don’t get stuck in a state of denial. Recognize things for what they are. And recognize that you both had something to do with your marriage going bad to the point where a divorce became the path forward.

 

4 comments

  1. As soon as I saw your title and started reading, I immediately thought of Louis CK. And when I went to your site to finish reading, there he was. You already knew. This is why you are the sensei. I have to tell myself often too, I am single because a bad relationship ended. Not a good one.

    1. Sensei says:

      Words of wisdom. It’s better to be alone than to wish you were. 🙂

  2. mumsthewordblog1 says:

    I dispute your theory though ; my dad divorced my mum after 42 years ( complex story) but he still loved her deeply and saw her most days until she passed away a few years later!
    That said it’s better to leave a sad relationship…
    I’m lucky enough to have been happily married for nearly 33 years 😁😁😁

    1. Sensei says:

      I’m always glad to hear about outliers like that! Nice to know some divorced couples can maintain pleasant interactions even after whatever ended the marriage has passed.

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